I was beginning to order loveplugs online to surprise her on our first date when suddenly a friend and a gay rights activist dropped in the home. I quickly ordered the ones that I had put into my cart too embarrassed for her to know what I was up to.

She had come in to spend some time with me because she was going to be away:

As if she had a premonition, she began asking me about the girl I was seeing. I gave in with a wink. Her excitement was infectious. Talks strayed into how same-sex marriages came to be called legal in our country. I only knew the skeleton. But since she was into it I thought this was a good time to know.

The story dates back to 1993 when the Hawaii Supreme Court had to hear a case on same-sex marriage. In its judgment, the judge remarked that denial might violate the constitutional right of the person. The key word here in the judgment was “might”.

Right after their judgment, the Congress came out with a scathing piece of legislature called the Defense of Marriage Act in the year 1996 as a result of the backlash against the Hawaii Judgement. It is important to note that no gay marriages were allowed still. The Draconian law only recognized a marriage between a man and a woman at the Federal level.

In 2003, Massachusetts was the first state to legalize same-sex marriages. In 2013, the Supreme Court overturned key provisions of the Defense of Marriage Ac, 1996 stating categorically that banning marriage between gay persons was a violation of their rights.

It is only in 2015 that the Supreme Court has affirmed that gay couples can marry and live as a married couple as of a legal right.

I am so glad that Glenda actually came over to talk. I had a great time bonding with her over coffee and cookies. She has been relentlessly and selflessly working for gay rights as long as I can remember!